Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Lara's blog

THIS IS NOT A DRILL!!!!! I am blessed to have found a therapist and to have worked out a donation that I can afford ! I am blessed with stubbornness and a relentless belief that ‘all will be well and all is well’ THANKYOU Julian of Norwich ! I am blessed that I have already begun to learn first aid and coping techniques to help with the symptoms of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ( old name ‘Shell Shock’) I am blessed that I have learned to be vulnerable and ask for help. I am blessed with amazing friends and family who love and support me. Good job really Because life keeps happening! Totally unfair events happen and people are completely unreasonable and mean! So I breathe , I tap, I repeat mantras , I go to therapy and I do my best not to be a wobbly sobbing mess on the floor, and I let myself hear others when they say ‘ yep sometimes life is an ass!!!!’ So here is the relaxation method from my treatment See if you can do it at least 3 times in a week and let me know how you get on . Allocate both time and a place to do this exercise so that you will not be interrupted. Do not start if you are already stressed, have other matters distracting you, have drunk alcohol, used recreational drugs, or are tired. Before beginning sit for a few minutes and just relax. Think of what you wish to accomplish with this exercise. Define your intention. Now close your eyes. Begin by taking three deep breaths in through your nose and slowly out through your mouth. Repeat until you get used to this type of breathing so that the breathing itself is not distracting you. Once you feel comfortable breathing in this manner specifically think about how you are sitting and mentally imagine that you are looking at yourself. Now in your mind focus with intention beginning with your toes and extending to your feet relaxing your muscles. Feel how it is almost like they melt away as you continue to breathe in and out. Only focusing on your feet and toes. When you begin, it will be easy to be distracted or have your thoughts wonder. When this happens simply begin again relaxing the muscles of your toes and feet. Once you have been able to relax your toes and feet, extend more proximally and repeat the exercise relaxing your calves and thighs, relax the muscles of your abdomen and chest, think of your spine and relaxing the muscles of your spine, your shoulders and then your neck. Relax the muscles of your face and scalp. As you are able to extend the relaxation of the muscles of your body, notice that there is a calmness overcoming you. That you feel good. At this point, it is not unusual to feel sleepy or fall asleep. That’s okay. It may take several attempts to get to this point and be able to hold this feeling of being relaxed. Be patient. Be kind to yourself. Focus now on your heart and think of relaxing your heart muscle as you slowly breathe in and out. You will find that your heartbeat will slow as your body relaxes and your breath is controlled. Imagine your body, now completely relaxed, and experience the sense of simply being as you slowly breathe in and out through your nose. Feel the sense of warmth. Many will feel that they are floating and be overcome with a sense of calmness. Sit with this feeling and continue to slowly breathe in and slowly exhale out. With intention remember this sense of relaxation, calmness and warmth. Now slowly open your eyes. Sit for a few minutes with your eyes open and just be with no other intention or thought. Breath and relaxation are the first steps towards taming the mind. Ps we are all in this together! We all matter and we all can heal !!!!! I LOVE YOU AND ALLWAYS WILL! Xxxlovelaraxxx

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