Yup! It’s not a walk in the park! It’s not Armageddon either! The most natural thing for your body to do! What you were made for! So how do you do it? How do you fall off a cliff? Relax, let it happen, hope for the best! Sometimes there is a mucousy discharge 1-3 days before (a show!) sometimes not!
The bag around the baby (waters) sometimes breaks (oops! I’ve wee’d meeself!) first, before contractions (like big period pains) start, sometimes they break later!! Or you break them yourself (bag can be broken with clean fingers if the cervix is opened 8cm or more!)
The contractions, rushes, pains, start off like period pains, pretty irregular not too strong pretty long periods in between. You notice them around the base of your belly & your back. If you’ve got a high pain threshold you’ll be able to sit about, drink helpful herb teas (Agnus Castus, Sage etc.) make sure everything is ready, comfy warm! Practice working with the rushes & your breath so it starts to widen your cervix (visualise opening flowers, golden pulsating donuts! etc. use your imagination!)
When the cervix gets to half way (5cm), the contractions, rushes become closer together, about every 3 -5 minutes, & longer! You can feel your muscles around your baby hardening as the rushes arrive, peak & dissolve! Massage, warm baths, walking around, deep breathing, Blue Cohash teas or tinctures, dancing, fire swinging, chocs wiv a drop of lavender in them, lovely music, all help you work with the rhythm of your body to widen your cervix & move the baby into position between your bum bone & pelvis. Lovely!
O.K. this is the home straight! feel like you need a big poo? Brain convincing you that you can’t do this? Feel the need to have all the drugs right now? Guess what? The babe is nearly here you’ve done all the pre- moves! Now all you have to do is push your baby out!! YES YOU CAN!! The pains come in waves, act like a surfer when the rushes come, see it feel it ride with it! Push as hard as you can, then relax into the hot fluffy respite! It may only be 10 seconds but appreciate it!
Get into your most comfy position, squatting , kneeling, hanging round your partners neck, hanging from a rope ( connection to fathers genitals optional!) leaning on a tree, there are many ways , but make sure you let gravity help you these last few steps!
You’ll feel like your baby’s coming out of your bum but really its only passing by, stroking downwards on your back could be helpful to remind you where the babe is going! Push again & then as you push feel Chinese burns on your bits like nothing on earth, beautiful and terrible instantaneously ( the baby’s head has reached the exit hole) now a time for breathing & resting, possibly warm flannels on your fanny, clitoris to bum will ease the whole story!
Possibly a few pushes where you feel that he’s going back in! Believe that each rush your baby is 1cm closer to being born & it will be so!! Then a big push, like all of you is focussed on one huge push to poo out your own bottom hole (I know! Gross eh?!) Then relax! The baby’s out, (all babies look a bit purple or blue when they first get out cos it takes a while for the red blood to start circulating round!! Lots of rubbing & cuddles will soon have her looking pink & gorgeous! ) put it on your skin, feel warm & together with your baby, maybe baby’ll feed maybe not! Smell that smell! Meet those eyes! Feel like a super hero ‘cos you are! Then about 10 mins later, another contraction, push! Concentrating, then out comes the placenta, joined to the baby by the umbilical cord. When the cord stops pulsing with blood, clamp it twice & cut in between the two clamps! That’s it! Baby & mother all fit & healthy! Nice one!
That’s it! All above time limits vary to fit women, as all are different! Naturally birthing your baby is good strong & clever! It is the action that enables you to trust you mother instinct over your logical brain recreating you as a mother!
Be brave & strong, confidant & hard working & all will be well! Lots of love & luck!