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Angel Benjamin – Lara’s story

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Birthing Stories

It’s a rainbow! A multi coloured birth story, filled with beauty and awe-inspiring majesty.

Baby Angel Benjamin Love, the creation of fairy love, fairy loving of joy of life. A blessing in my 40th year An excuse to rest, eat, be, love myself and appreciate how wonderful being alive is. Also, he was the colander that sorted my real true loves. Friends from the freeloaders and power-grabbers. Something I am useless at myself.

On Sunday 9th march, 37 weeks pregnant, we discovered that Benjamin’s heart had stopped beating. A condition where the baby takes on water until the heart can no longer support it. No way out, just a thing that happens. I am glad that I was blissfully unaware and so joyfully pregnant throughout his whole existence.

On the 13th march, I gave birth, surrounded by best friends Josie and Coral, husband Jim, Mum, Dad, my sister Holly, my son Jake and midwife sisters Joy and Meg. Some extra hormones in my fanny to start things off and really soon my waters began to flow. I relaxed and danced, kissed and cuddled, and soon I was needing to rock. I was fearful, the acupuncture lady gave me a tiara of relaxation and I smiled .

I got some stuff to make me poo cos I figured that a clear path for my babe was best, seeing as he wouldn’t be able to help with his body to be born. I got more focused really quickly , rocking, dancing, swaying, loving, being loved in a big bubble of love and light.

I needed to poo and did. I looked at my fanny with a mirror and could see it was opening. My body moved inside. My normal brain said “I need a poo”. My goddess brain said ” I’m birthing a baby now!”

I was up on the bed leaning over the back, kneeling, squatting, stretching. Feeling my body move! Amazing! Bones, muscles, hormones, breath, amazing!

Classically my normal brain said “I can’t do this anymore”, so did my mouth, I’m told . I don’t know. I had gone from physical thought and was now in physical feeling, knowing that my body was in charge and could definately birth my baby.

Chinese burns on my bits… Yes here he comes! Legs first then balls! “Lara he’s got big balls !” shouts my brilliant boy Jake. Breathe deep, relax, hold the space of sensation and experience in a joyful rainbow bubble. Breathe. Be. Feeling myself flower and open slowly and deliberately to birth my son’s belly and arms into the world. Breathe. Relax, float on rainbows of lush joy, distant, sleepy, then waking up to the Chinese burns again! This is it, this is his head, here he is, open, open, open… Relax.

There is a space now where the baby was a moment before. I’m cuddled and held, I breathe. I wail…

I think the wailing was good! It was still hurting and the placenta came, then still my womb was murder! Doing its best to close down, filled with about 8 pints of blood clots. I may be pretty hardcore, but this definately needed assistance! All the way! Drips, pills, injections, masks, crazy massage inside and out, grabbing, scraping… Crazy shit!!!!!

I woke up later, alive!!!! Pretty weak and confused, but alive, and surrounded by love from so many angles. All I could do was accept and learn!!

“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.”

xxx

Kate Middleton chooses her midwife and chooses her birth

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

At the beginning of the year I sent the British princess a copy of ‘The Princess and the Poo’ and an inspirational letter about midwives, natural birth, hypnotherapy and water birth… Was delighted in May to hear that Kate was considering hypnobirth. According to sources who talked to Grazia, “Kate has researched various birthing methods. She wants it to be natural, so hypnobirthing is one option that appealed and she has been reading up on it and listening to CDs to get into the right frame of mind. Some of her friends have used this method and swear by it. Kate wants to do it her way and to be relaxed.” Then even more chuffed to hear she had put a water birth on her birthing plan!

Royal Baby born safe and well

Kate chose her own midwife and chose her own birth – and wouldn’t you know, she did it all with no complications! A healthy baby boy was delivered at 16:24 BST at St Mary’s Hospital in Paddington, west London, weighing 8lb 6oz. Fairy Doula sends her warmest congratulations to the Royal couple and love to the new baby. And of course, fairy kisses and kudos to Kate for taking control over her birthing experience!

 

It’s a boy! Royal baby delivered safe and well 🙂

Counselling for positive Outcomes. Gail Hart Midwifery Today conference, Harrisberg , Pennsylvania 2012

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Midwifery notes

Ok, so I believed that after every day at the conference I would write up my notes on my new shiny box! Not true! I totally forgot how much concentration and writing I would be doing every day not to mention running, smiling, sorting stuff and generally giving loads of energy to all of my favourite midwives and birth activists! So obviously I lunched out my homework! So now, I am about to start transporting my conference notes to blog world, I hope they are as exciting and informative to you all as they are to me!

COUNSELLING FOR POSITIVE OUTCOMES- GAIL HART

  • Every pregnant woman should be supported with all she needs when she becomes pregnant.
  • stress changes positive outcomes- life can be stressful. U.S. women are expected to do everything with minimal support
  • NUTRITIONAL ECONOMIC, SOCIAL – These are all kinds of stress- which lead to high blood pressure and then other complications.
  • Nutrition- council for positive outcomes
  • assist women to value themselves and respect themselves and their babies by eating well.
  • sit and talk, “what did you eat yesterday?”
  • you have to know where a woman is dietarily before you can positively affect her diet
  • cook for people- bring gluten-free cookies to work
  • introduce people to new foods- sprouts, houmous, stevia, seaweed
  • sometimes people know how to eat properly but can’t afford it. Assist by organising get-togethers and food shares
  • The value of prenatal care is the time spent with the woman, which gives more confidence and connection between you both, raising levels of oxytocin thereby creating better birth experiences
  • This is an exciting time for you?” use leading questions to discover where she is with her pregnancy experience.
  • Risks and fears need to be planned for but they do not need to be stated as problems to terrify women!
  • Try to keep our fears ( and adrenalin) low and the fears of our women low too!
  • All women are unique! No matter how you have been educated you need to remember that each woman experiences life differently
  • Always ask permission before touching- this creates body respect.
  • see the whole woman , use your eyes and ears, heart and hands
  • When birth experiences are bad women seem to talk of it less, with fewer details
  • Pick up the clues – get the whole story
  • Women rarely repeat their birth experience physically- most women put their experiences into perspective
  • Each birth is different- each time they change because they grow and change with the birth experience
  • Always talk calmly and remind women of the dangers of unfounded fear-mongering thru the internet and gossip.
  •  High blood pressure is not a symptom of Eclampsia or pre-eclampsia, it is a symptom that something is wrong and needs attention!
  • Only 1 out of 100 people diagnosed with pre-eclampsia actually has a seizure at birth
  • possibly calcium regulation is a factor in preeclampsia – also kidney functions are a factor.
  • MODERATION IN ALL THINGS EXCEPT COMPASSION AND LOVE
Gail Hart is a majestic midwife, her book ‘ Research updates for midwives, some thoughts on the best evidence.’ is a brilliant resource book for anyone who needs to back up their decisions and actions at a medical level. Loads of doctor speak and names to quote, makes even doctors listen and question hospital protocol!

Independent Midwives Protest in London

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

Protesters campaign to maintain the provision of independent midwifery in the UK outside the Houses of Parliament on March 25, 2013 in London, England. New EU regulation will mandate that midwives operate with insurance, however no insurers in the UK are willing to extend cover to independent midwives, which will potentially lead to its abolition.

(March 24, 2013 – Source: Oli Scarff/Getty Images Europe) http://www.zimbio.com/pictures/ZDzjvCPgWox/Independent+Midwives+Protest+London/iqDehBpsTJ_

Midwives Protest 25th March

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

Choose your Midwife, Choose your Birth!

Please support the march in London on the 25th March! We will be protesting at the Houses of Parliament to retain the rights of women in the UK to choose the midwife they want.

Independent Midwives

The Princess and the Poo British Isles Book Tour Fundraising Drive – Please Help!

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

front coverMy plan is to take my children’s book ‘The Princess and The Poo’ on a countrywide tour of primary schools, to create a generation of children who are not afraid of birth. I’ve have created a forum theatre piece to tell the story and am seeking to raise funds for travel expenses. Click here to view my fundraising page, where you can read more about the book tour, contribute if you feel able and find other ways in which you can help. contribute now

PLEASE share, like and donate! All donations appreciated no matter how small!

Peace on earth begins with peaceful birth. We are the ones we have been waiting for. Fairy love and kisses, Lara xxxxxx

In the Cambridge Times

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

The Fairy Doula is in the papers again!

Kate Middleton’s birth adviser? Fenland author wins royal approval for unusual pregnancy book

Story by: ROB SETCHELL, Reporter

Thursday, March 7, 2013 2:12 PM

Meet Lara Stockbridge – author, fire-breather and self-appointed birth adviser to the Duchess of Cambridge.

Lara Stockbridge shows off her book and the letter she received from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. Lara Stockbridge shows off her book and the letter she received from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.

The mother-of-two, from March, Cambs, published an unusual, rhyming book about pregnancy last year – and it now comes with royal approval.

That’s because she has received a letter of thanks from Kate Middleton and Prince William after she sent them a copy of The Princess and The Poo.

Miss Stockbridge put her own spin on Hans Christian Andersen’s classic The Princess and The Pea in an attempt to “take the fear out of childbirth” and encourage home births.

The 39-year-old, who writes under the pen name of Lara Fairy Love, said: “A lot of people are terrified of having a baby and all you get taught through the television is that birth is a trauma. The thing about being terrified is that it makes childbirth really hard – it can actually be an amazing experience and that’s why I wrote the book.”

Read the full story on the Cambridge Times website

Lara Fairy Love in the Cambridge Times

Royal Approval for The Princess and The Poo

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

How over the moon was the Fairy Doula to receive a letter from the Palace! The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge wrote to tell me that they were ‘very touched’ by my gift of a copy of ‘The Princess and the Poo’… and the Oxford Mail have published the story 🙂

Fairy Doula in the Papers

Royal Baby – Don’t be too posh – or scared – to push!

A writer from Oxford has received royal approval for her unusually titled book about pregnancy.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge sent a letter of thanks to Lara Fairy Love after she sent them her book The Princess and The Poo.

Read the full story here

Get your copy of ‘The Princess and the Poo’ by Lara Fairy Love and Jenna Andreotti here


Here’s hoping that I’ve inspired a Royal homebirth…

The V. Short Pregnancy Guide

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Birthing Stories, Lara's blog

(Written to Calm, Relax & Reassure! Honest!)

Being pregnant – lets be honest! Is very strange! O.k. maybe not all the time but on average mostly you feel very different. More different than you’ve ever felt before!!

Tired? Irritable? – Eating fresh raw foods in small amounts. Seeds bean sprouts, dried fruit – raises your blood sugar then irritations with people & stuff melt away! Honest!

Feeling nauseous? Steer clear of fags & booze!! Drink ginger tea /beer!!

Confused at your inability to “hold it down?” the extra hormones you get on your period (y’know the ones that make you irrational, psychotic, weepy etc) you get the same ones when you’re preggers only 80 % more! Your chemical make up has changed by ¾!!!! No wonder you feel different!!

Lying / Bathing quietly in the sun & water for an hour a day allows your brain & body to relax into this totally new state of being- Maiden to Mother, Flower to Fruit etc!!

Stiff? Full of achy bits? Your body’s ligaments & tendons soften during pregnancy so that your pelvis can tilt & make the birth canal a straight run for easy birthing!

That’s about it for the first three months (trimester).

In the middle 3 months you usually settle into pregnant life, being amazed at your abilities of taste & smell & sleeping!! You could have a renewed burst of energy & confidence as you see you’re your body start to change no longer do you just feel preggers now you’re starting to look it! Rubbing nut kernel oil onto stretchy bits makes it less likely that you’ll get stretch marks! Walking helps you exercise the calf & thigh muscles needed for physical active labor!

The third trimester 6-9 months is pretty good. The home strait! You feel pregnant, you look pregnant! Comfy seats, free food, shopping carriers, breakfast in bed, pampering, massages, etc. all these things & more are yours to command!!! So surround yourself with people who recognise that you are doing the best job in the world so that they treat you & your bump accordingly!

Drinking Raspberry leaf tea strengthens your uterine muscles so that they are able to squeeze out your baby! Tastes good too!!

Basically, thinking & planning how you want to feel & where you want to give birth, who you want to be with you & most importantly how you want to walk across the bridge from pregnancy to motherhood will ensure & empower you to give birth in the way that you know you can!!

“It’s called labour because it’s hard work!!”

Alternative to suturing & tear prevention – Gail Hart

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Midwifery notes

Preparation before birth

  • exercise
  • perineal massage
  • deep breathing
  • squats
  • stretching

Strategies for second ( pushing ) stage

  • Avoid ‘coached’ pushing. Encourage her to listen to her body and to stop pushing and breathe when her baby is on the perineum.
  • A compress of hot water, olive oil, coconut oil, avocado oil, grapeseed oil, sweet almond oil or arnica oil is very helpful
  • Most stuff we know is because someone has told us from their personal experience, NOT through research
  • Standing and squatting positions create less tearing of perineum
  • Ginger increases circulation to tissues so it can stretch – it also minimises swelling and smells good
  • Comfrey activates cell rejuvenation and reduces swelling
  • 96 degrees is ideal heat for a birthing pool
  • Compression will always stem bleeding
  • Spray adrenaline onto a gauze put this on the tear to stop bleeding
  • Yunan payao seaweed helps too
  • Sugar coagulates wounds; also salt.
  • Honey is great for wound healing
  “If two pieces of vagina are in the same room, they will move together!” Gail Hart

Disclaimer

Information on this website is not intended to provide diagnosis or prescriptions. It is an informational guide to help you better understand your body, your health, and some of the natural medicines available to you. Keep in mind that while plants are not drugs they can be very powerful, and their effects cannot be guaranteed as they vary from woman to woman.

The remedies, recipes and advice on this website are based on the personal experiences of the authors, however they cannot be held responsible for any adverse effects resulting from the use of these treatments. If in doubt please do not hesitate to consult an herbal practitioner, midwife, naturopath, physician or gynaecologist.

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