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Angel Benjamin – Lara’s story

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Birthing Stories

It’s a rainbow! A multi coloured birth story, filled with beauty and awe-inspiring majesty.

Baby Angel Benjamin Love, the creation of fairy love, fairy loving of joy of life. A blessing in my 40th year An excuse to rest, eat, be, love myself and appreciate how wonderful being alive is. Also, he was the colander that sorted my real true loves. Friends from the freeloaders and power-grabbers. Something I am useless at myself.

On Sunday 9th march, 37 weeks pregnant, we discovered that Benjamin’s heart had stopped beating. A condition where the baby takes on water until the heart can no longer support it. No way out, just a thing that happens. I am glad that I was blissfully unaware and so joyfully pregnant throughout his whole existence.

On the 13th march, I gave birth, surrounded by best friends Josie and Coral, husband Jim, Mum, Dad, my sister Holly, my son Jake and midwife sisters Joy and Meg. Some extra hormones in my fanny to start things off and really soon my waters began to flow. I relaxed and danced, kissed and cuddled, and soon I was needing to rock. I was fearful, the acupuncture lady gave me a tiara of relaxation and I smiled .

I got some stuff to make me poo cos I figured that a clear path for my babe was best, seeing as he wouldn’t be able to help with his body to be born. I got more focused really quickly , rocking, dancing, swaying, loving, being loved in a big bubble of love and light.

I needed to poo and did. I looked at my fanny with a mirror and could see it was opening. My body moved inside. My normal brain said “I need a poo”. My goddess brain said ” I’m birthing a baby now!”

I was up on the bed leaning over the back, kneeling, squatting, stretching. Feeling my body move! Amazing! Bones, muscles, hormones, breath, amazing!

Classically my normal brain said “I can’t do this anymore”, so did my mouth, I’m told . I don’t know. I had gone from physical thought and was now in physical feeling, knowing that my body was in charge and could definately birth my baby.

Chinese burns on my bits… Yes here he comes! Legs first then balls! “Lara he’s got big balls !” shouts my brilliant boy Jake. Breathe deep, relax, hold the space of sensation and experience in a joyful rainbow bubble. Breathe. Be. Feeling myself flower and open slowly and deliberately to birth my son’s belly and arms into the world. Breathe. Relax, float on rainbows of lush joy, distant, sleepy, then waking up to the Chinese burns again! This is it, this is his head, here he is, open, open, open… Relax.

There is a space now where the baby was a moment before. I’m cuddled and held, I breathe. I wail…

I think the wailing was good! It was still hurting and the placenta came, then still my womb was murder! Doing its best to close down, filled with about 8 pints of blood clots. I may be pretty hardcore, but this definately needed assistance! All the way! Drips, pills, injections, masks, crazy massage inside and out, grabbing, scraping… Crazy shit!!!!!

I woke up later, alive!!!! Pretty weak and confused, but alive, and surrounded by love from so many angles. All I could do was accept and learn!!

“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.”

xxx

Placenta mother tincture

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in Natural Medicine, Placenta Medicine

Your placenta is an amazing organ, made from you, inspired by your baby to create, feed and sustain your baby and yourself to Birth and beyond.

A placenta mother tincture is your very own hormonally-focused life remedy. It balances your hormones and creates physical and mental wellbeing in you and your baby after Birthing.

This medicine is ancient, the Mother’s primary tool in the medicinal care of herself and her family. Sadly in recent times the medical industry and the pharmaceutical industry have colluded to separate the Mother from her personally-powered medicine chest, telling her that it is rubbish, leftovers, a biohazard!

I have been preparing placentas for over a decade now, and sadly most medical staff still recoil in horror at the thought of anything to do with the placenta and its medicinal benefits. In past times when the housewife and mother had the primary role of healing and caring for family members, placenta remedies were considered a true treasure. Happily people are once again becoming interested. I am so glad! This ancient knowledge should not be lost with the changing living conditions of today’s families, when it can give so much!

I hope someday soon a nurse, doctor or midwife will ask me about Placenta Medicine and actually listen with interest as the wise mothers and fathers do!

HOW TO MAKE A PLACENTA MOTHER TINCTURE

It is very simple!

Take a teaspoon sized piece of Placenta, from the side connected to Mamma for the Mamma medicine and from the end of the umbilical cord for the Baby medicine.

Place in a sterile jar filled with 40 % proof alcohol ( rum is good ), leave in The Sun and Moon ( 24hrs), strain the mixture through a muslin cloth and place in a dark glass bottle. Take a sterile dark glass dropper bottle, half fill with spring water and half with alcohol, then add 13 drops of tincture . You have now made your own Placenta Mother Essence. Well done! Be well!

Fairy love, Lara xxxxxx

Kate Middleton chooses her midwife and chooses her birth

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

At the beginning of the year I sent the British princess a copy of ‘The Princess and the Poo’ and an inspirational letter about midwives, natural birth, hypnotherapy and water birth… Was delighted in May to hear that Kate was considering hypnobirth. According to sources who talked to Grazia, “Kate has researched various birthing methods. She wants it to be natural, so hypnobirthing is one option that appealed and she has been reading up on it and listening to CDs to get into the right frame of mind. Some of her friends have used this method and swear by it. Kate wants to do it her way and to be relaxed.” Then even more chuffed to hear she had put a water birth on her birthing plan!

Royal Baby born safe and well

Kate chose her own midwife and chose her own birth – and wouldn’t you know, she did it all with no complications! A healthy baby boy was delivered at 16:24 BST at St Mary’s Hospital in Paddington, west London, weighing 8lb 6oz. Fairy Doula sends her warmest congratulations to the Royal couple and love to the new baby. And of course, fairy kisses and kudos to Kate for taking control over her birthing experience!

 

It’s a boy! Royal baby delivered safe and well :)

Independent Midwives Protest in London

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

Protesters campaign to maintain the provision of independent midwifery in the UK outside the Houses of Parliament on March 25, 2013 in London, England. New EU regulation will mandate that midwives operate with insurance, however no insurers in the UK are willing to extend cover to independent midwives, which will potentially lead to its abolition.

(March 24, 2013 – Source: Oli Scarff/Getty Images Europe) http://www.zimbio.com/pictures/ZDzjvCPgWox/Independent+Midwives+Protest+London/iqDehBpsTJ_

Midwives Protest 25th March

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

Choose your Midwife, Choose your Birth!

Please support the march in London on the 25th March! We will be protesting at the Houses of Parliament to retain the rights of women in the UK to choose the midwife they want.

Independent Midwives

The Princess and the Poo British Isles Book Tour Fundraising Drive – Please Help!

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

front coverMy plan is to take my children’s book ‘The Princess and The Poo’ on a countrywide tour of primary schools, to create a generation of children who are not afraid of birth. I’ve have created a forum theatre piece to tell the story and am seeking to raise funds for travel expenses. Click here to view my fundraising page, where you can read more about the book tour, contribute if you feel able and find other ways in which you can help. contribute now

PLEASE share, like and donate! All donations appreciated no matter how small!

Peace on earth begins with peaceful birth. We are the ones we have been waiting for. Fairy love and kisses, Lara xxxxxx

In the Cambridge Times

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

The Fairy Doula is in the papers again!

Kate Middleton’s birth adviser? Fenland author wins royal approval for unusual pregnancy book

Story by: ROB SETCHELL, Reporter

Thursday, March 7, 2013 2:12 PM

Meet Lara Stockbridge – author, fire-breather and self-appointed birth adviser to the Duchess of Cambridge.

Lara Stockbridge shows off her book and the letter she received from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. Lara Stockbridge shows off her book and the letter she received from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.

The mother-of-two, from March, Cambs, published an unusual, rhyming book about pregnancy last year – and it now comes with royal approval.

That’s because she has received a letter of thanks from Kate Middleton and Prince William after she sent them a copy of The Princess and The Poo.

Miss Stockbridge put her own spin on Hans Christian Andersen’s classic The Princess and The Pea in an attempt to “take the fear out of childbirth” and encourage home births.

The 39-year-old, who writes under the pen name of Lara Fairy Love, said: “A lot of people are terrified of having a baby and all you get taught through the television is that birth is a trauma. The thing about being terrified is that it makes childbirth really hard – it can actually be an amazing experience and that’s why I wrote the book.”

Read the full story on the Cambridge Times website

Lara Fairy Love in the Cambridge Times

Royal Approval for The Princess and The Poo

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in News

How over the moon was the Fairy Doula to receive a letter from the Palace! The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge wrote to tell me that they were ‘very touched’ by my gift of a copy of ‘The Princess and the Poo’… and the Oxford Mail have published the story :)

Fairy Doula in the Papers

Royal Baby – Don’t be too posh – or scared – to push!

A writer from Oxford has received royal approval for her unusually titled book about pregnancy.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge sent a letter of thanks to Lara Fairy Love after she sent them her book The Princess and The Poo.

Read the full story here

Get your copy of ‘The Princess and the Poo’ by Lara Fairy Love and Jenna Andreotti here


Here’s hoping that I’ve inspired a Royal homebirth…

Make your own Baby Powder

Written by FairyDoula. Posted in For Baby

With cosmetic-grade talcum powder having been proven to be carcinogenic, Fairy Doula has created a safe, natural, environmentally-friendly alternative.

Ingredients

  • 1lb/450g arrowroot powder
  • ½oz/14g orris root powder
  • 1oz/28g slippery elm powder
  • ½ tsp rosemary oil
  • ½ tsp lavender oil

Method

Put all ingredients in plastic bag with air! Seal & shake! Open bag & let out excess air, reseal, let stand for 1 week.

Put in shaker jar & use.

Disclaimer

Information on this website is not intended to provide diagnosis or prescriptions. It is an informational guide to help you better understand your body, your health, and some of the natural medicines available to you. Keep in mind that while plants are not drugs they can be very powerful, and their effects cannot be guaranteed as they vary from woman to woman.

The remedies, recipes and advice on this website are based on the personal experiences of the authors, however they cannot be held responsible for any adverse effects resulting from the use of these treatments. If in doubt please do not hesitate to consult an herbal practitioner, midwife, naturopath, physician or gynaecologist.

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